Be stubborn about your goals, flexible about your methods

Lessons from Biryani!

For a long time,I’ve been a fan of Biryanis and a few months ago I started a photo album on Facebook about Biryanis. I did on a whim – but apparently it captured peoples’ hearts(appetites). Since people have reached out with their biryani recommendations, share biryani memes/ memories and generally include me in any Biryani conversations. I’ve actually learnt more about (and ate more) Biryanis as a result!

Is it honestly so easy to polarize the world towards certain aspects of your life? Here’s applying to Biryani polarization to more “fruit”ful goals in the new year!

—-

A snap from my Biryani album!

Screen Shot 2016-12-25 at 11.25.23 am.png

Lessons from grandpa

Sivakumar_Vikram.jpg

This is a photo of my grandfather & myself walking by the beach. This photo constantly reminds me of 3 things:

  • Remain curious – my grandpa asks way too many questions – approximately 5 questions a minute(even if he just met you). He asks questions about anything he doesn’t know (often things he knows too – just to get a different perspective). You’re never too old or too knowledgable. Just keep learning!
  • Keep having fun – On the day of the walk, my grandfather of over 85 got into the harsh waves. Given his age, the water would knock him down and he’d have sand & salt in his eyes. Once the waves recede he’d start giggling like a child, pull himself together and go again. It was the most fun I’ve seen a person have. Of course, I guess sometimes that fun comes with a bit of risk and the wrath of onlooking loved ones.
  • Your life outlasts you – I am very close to the grandpa in this pic, but I’ve never met my other grandpa. However, I’ve heard plenty of stories about the great work and impact he had. The remarkable thing is that this person who went before I arrived, now pays (through his pension) partially for my education. An everyday reminder that lives often outlast people.

 

Staying True to yourself

What do you want? What do you really want? When were you the happiest?

These have been the questions I’ve been asking myself.  More often than not, we end up being someone because we thought someone else would like that, etc etc. Instead can you really identify who you want to be and just go after that?

14017789_10153977075816443_2132259013_n.jpg

 

Giving & Receiving Inputs

People come asking for inputs. Do all of them absorb the advice?

An easy way to find out if someone is really absorbing your advice is to see what percentage of the time they talk. Some just want to share their views.

If in case you are stuck in a situation where you are actually just listening, don’t completely agree but they are defending – then assess how many statements you are making and how many questions you are asking. You need to move to a counselling style questioning mode if you have to get through.

 

The Connect…

Feel free to share your life on Facebook – but let’s not miss out on life because we were on Facebook.

If from those online friends you can temporarily disconnect,with those around you – you maybe able to permanently connect

Stop worrying if you locked the door or switched off that light. Be in the present & enjoy the flavors in every single bite

You could use your phone & share this moment with everyone, or you could choose to fall further in love with that special someone

What if that meeting with a friend is going to be the last time,wouldn’t spending it staring at your phone be quite the crime

Stop thinking of tomorrow’s important meeting. Be here, this moment is fleeting.

It wont repeat itself again – ever, but its your chance to form a memory – that lasts forever.

 

Be like a River

Be like a flowing river, not a stagnant pond. Rivers are steadfast, tireless in striving to reach their goal – the ocean. No obstacle can stop their determined pursuit. They reduce boulders to pebbles. Track round hills and valleys. Fall from precipices. But never stop until they merge with the ocean.

Consume Vs Contribute

Life is a balance between consumption and contribution. In any situation an individual consumes from and contributes to a wider society, community or environment.

The big difference though is that some “contribute to consume”, while others “consume to contribute”. Which C is your eyes on?

The Two Books

I have some extra time on my hands and have been deciding about what to read & learn. There are largely a few schools of possibility – enjoy the philosophical & spiritual reading in a more relaxed mind OR use the time to learn a few skills & upgrade.

Yesterday I came across this quote :

Religion deals with the truths of the metaphysical world just as chemistry and the other natural sciences deal with the truths of the physical world. The book one must read to learn chemistry is the book of nature. The book from which to learn religion is your own mind and heart. The sage is often ignorant of physical science, because he reads the wrong book — the book within; and the scientist is too often ignorant of religion, because he too reads the wrong book — the book without.

Swami Vivekananda

The quote for me is about the balance between Spirituality & Science. It highlights the importance of attaining mastery in both the internal and external world. Now I attempt to balance reading both books… by reading two different books 🙂