We fight, we all do. Countries call them war, you may call it a passion for change or a quarrel with your neighbour. It’s important to avoid them , but sometimes we have to fight.

It’s important though to remember why we fight. We need to fight to end fighting – in which case small punches don’t help. In fact they may even cause more harm.

So if you are annoyed by your friend/partner’s habit of pointing out when you leave the dishes out, it doesn’t end the fight when you start pointing out he/she does it too. While we think this is a dose of their medicine, it usually adds more fuel to the fire. So the fight doesn’t end. To end the fight, you may need to change the paradigm of argument or find another way to demonstrate the frustration.

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